When I began this business 14 years ago, I was completely unaware that I would have the privilege of bearing witness to some of the most intimate moments of peoples’ lives.
I spent the first few years focusing on the seemingly endless technical aspects of shooting, as well as making sure I “got the right shots.” It wasn’t until my own wedding, when I was faced with being on the other side of the camera, that I quickly recognized the complexities of what it feels like to be photographed.
It changed me.
My wedding day was filled with so many raw emotions. Excitement, joy, love, anticipation, fear, insecurity, to name just a few. Experiencing these intense emotions, while being photographed, made me think differently about my approach toward photographing other peoples’ weddings. In the evolution that has been my career as a photographer, this was the defining moment.
My focus began to shift.
There are a lot of talented photographers who can manipulate light, whom have solid composition, and can make pretty pictures. Those elements are important, and necessary, but what I’m most interested in is human connection. I am the person on the lookout for people’s reactions and interactions between each other, as well as within their environment. I bring to life the moments that would have otherwise remained unseen.
Over the years, I have learned to listen through my lens. I’ve learned to step back and let each story reveal itself throughout the day, and place more importance on telling those stories, rather than building story lines that don’t matter, or are inauthentic.
Trust has to be earned in the space between my side of the lens and those I photograph. I’ve reflected deeply on the privilege of photographing these moments while gearing up for this upcoming wedding season, and thinking more about how creating a safe space for vulnerability will allow for the building of trust quickly in those intimate moments. I’ll be spending time getting to know my couples better.
During our initial conversation, I’m more likely to ask personal questions like how you met, how you got engaged, what you like to do for fun together, etc. I want to know what you are looking for from your wedding photographer. What fears you have being photographed. What kinds of images get you excited when you envision your own wedding photos? What do you want the focus of your wedding to be?
I wish to create opportunities for you to speak openly with me about what you are most looking forward to during your wedding day, as well as any fears and anxieties you may have while planning your event.
As in any relationship, you know very quickly if you are a good match. I can tell within the first conversation if we will both benefit from working together. My approach and individual style does not work for everybody—that’s OK with me. The photography world is saturated with really talented photographers, and I encourage every single one of my clients to do their due diligence in researching the right photographer for them.
As Platon would say, in the end, 99.9% of taking a picture is spent on the connection. My work is about feeling that connection, and channeling it from you, through the lens.